Facilitated by Andy Binning
After a silent meditation and check-in, we engaged with "Hearing "No" in NVC." We began by individually writing our responses to questions 1 & 2:
- Think of someone who "No" you are having a hard time hearing. Who is this person? Write down the situation.
- What are your feelings and needs when you or think about their "No"? (Provide yourself with self-empathy)
We broke into groups of 3 to let each person speak about their feelings and needs and get empathy from their partners for 5 minutes for each group member. We followed this with a group check-in. There was excitement as some people felt energized and seemed ready to move toward solutions and specific actions.
The next phase was breaking into groups of 3 again, with each person getting:
- 5 minutes to be the No-Sayer as their partners gave them empathy
- 10 minutes to get back to their own perspective and get empathy as they talked through what was going on for them
In the check-in after this 2nd break-out session, relief and understanding/insight was mentioned. People also expressed deep appreciation for their partners and there were some beautiful expressions of connection and gratitude.
As the meeting closed, there was a lot of happy excitement, combined with a sense of calm--and many more smiles than at the outset of the meeting.