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Unfooled by Our Compassionate Communication Practice
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In Indie, the word for Nonviolence is Ahimsa. Another translation for Ahimsa is: "State of the heart that has no enemies".

Could the way we're treating or expressing our "needs" be innocently inspiring resentment in the listener? Could it be compelling us (and the other party) to enter a state of the heart that has enemies -- luring us to become more attached (and therefore come across as a demand)?  

Or perhaps our empathic guesses may inadvertently be increasing the attachment of the person we're empathizing with (even though they seem to feel better as a result), and therefore inadvertently increasing the likelihood of them seeing people and situations through the lense of "right" and "wrong", or "enemy"?  Do we express our empathy in a way that hold needs with a clenched fist or an open palm?

In what ways do we unknowingly create barriers to discovering our, and others', true needs?  In what ways do we unknowingly create barriers to true connection?

“The greatest obstacle to discovery is not ignorance—it is the illusion of knowledge” ~ Unknown

Workshop Aims
  • Discover whether you're inhabiting your Compassionate Communication presence -- or just have that illusion that you do.
  • Reduce countless hours unlearning the unconscious habits that cement our (and others') compassionate communication as a practice of "making wrong".
  • Increase opportunity for greater choice, empowerment and connection.

Come join us in building our capacity to identify how we unconsciously (and often innocently) use Compassionate Communication in a way that leads to its opposite -- and how to shift this unseen dynamic, so that we may increase our pro-activity, choice, and capacity to reduce resentment and inspire receptivity.

Workshop Details

Before coming to this workshop, please ensure you've read and understood the "Setting Scope, Purpose & the Container for Group Care" handout -- which also contains some useful tips for preventing conflict in life: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10ZQWI_9VOBi39Q12SKFlrZubZjzqmuzDlIFgA8UN5mg/edit?usp=sharing

1.) To bring clarity, and to foster everyone's support of group functionality and effectiveness. 
2.) To nurture trust-building and collaboration in the group. 
3.) To help us remain open to each other's requests or concerns, should any conflict crop up during the workshop. 

Donation: Please make a note to bring cash. No one will be turned away for a lack of funds. This 2.5 hour workshop is offered with the request of exchange for a $20-$0 donation (some groups charge $20.00 for a 2 hour session). Any amount you wish to contribute will be gratefully embraced, and will cover ongoing expenses incurred such as materials, transportation, many long hours spent in workshop preparation, facilitator's time and efforts, etc -- essentially making continuing these workshops possible. 

No registration nor experience required for this drop in. 

When: Monday, November 28th 2016, 6:30 - 9:00 PM 

Where: 1755 E 11th Ave., Vancouver (half a block east of Commercial on E 11th Ave.), at Pacifica Treatment Centre. The Commercial/Broadway Skytrain is close, and there is ample bike parking and car parking out front. Session held in the 3rd floor, south meeting room (straight ahead, as you get off the elevator). 

Questions or comments can be directed to the facilitator: Melissa


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Hi there, will you be hosting another workshop like this in the near future or know if one? Thank you Katherine

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Sorry for the delay in my reply, Katherine.  I don't know when I'll be hosting another workshop like this one, but I do plan on doing it again sometime.  Please send me your contact email and phone number here if you'd like to be notified. 

In the meantime, a few days ago I posted something I didn't cover in the workshop, but is of a similar theme. You can see it here (scroll to the top of the thread, and see the next few posts in the thread as well).

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